Picking the Date
“That’s an expensive time to travel.”
“The fog. Its always foggy that time of year.”
“Oh, that’s right around my birthday.”
These are all answers to the question I never asked: What do you think of my wedding date? You asked me when it was, I answered. The exchange should have ended there, unless you wanted to add something about how you were so excited for me.
Compared to picking a place to get married, picking the date has been a migraine. To pick the place where we exchange vows and party the night away was exhausting, but it remained a decision made between my sweetheart and myself. We listed addresses of places to visit (12 of them in 2 different areas) and made a weekend out of it. Sure there was some stress when we started talking about costs and details of each, but ultimately we found a place that looked like fun and felt right. Done.
Everyone has an opinion about when it should happen. I take that back. Everybody has an opinion about when it shouldn’t happen. It’s my day. Well, mine and my sweetheart’s day. We choose this day because it works for us (mostly me).
My father helped me see the light through all the frustrating pressure to pick a date that stressed me out, and almost had me eloping, by explaining, “There is never a good time to get married. Just pick a date and we will be there.” Thank you.
Am I wearing my bridezilla veil yet?
posted by calipand @ 10:58 AM
7 Comments:
I think the right answer is: "let's try to find something that works for as many people as possible" BECAUSE a union between man & woman isn't just for them. Its also thier friends, families and anyone else that cares enough about the couple to want to be there.
Hence why they have an opinion on the date. They want to be there. That should be applauded not condemned. Don't ya think?
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I am not trying to pick a date that does not accomodate the most people possible. I am trying to think about other people's schedules in addition to my own. What upsets me is that after the date has been picked, people share such negative comments instead of sharing positive support.
The union (for all people involved) is far more significant than the weather or the price of traveling, and can share the same date as birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays. Although I do understand that these reasons might prevent some people from coming to the wedding.
I really wanted this post to focus on how some people comment on the date in such a way that I did not anticipate when planning a wedding.
And, I have had many cheers of excitement with the date, but I needed a release for the negative remarks I have gotten recently.
I am SOOOO excited for your date and to be honest, It just might be the highlight of my year! Let the negative energy out, and then remember that your wedding is to honor you and your sweetie. And we're gonna PARTY. :-)
Wait 'till you name your children someday... no one ever likes the name you pick either for YOUR kids, as if you didn't spend hours and days agonizing over hundreds of names... when you tell people the new born's name they will say something like "that's nice" and then look down at the baby with a face that says "poor kid"... as if wondering why you didn't name the child after THEM!
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I think its important to know that the date may have been the only time the place you REALLY wanted was available or its the anniversary of your first date or something else of importance. the date should be the least significant part of the day. people get married on thursdays and mondays or they elope! people should be less selfish about the date and more delighted (and surprised) that they were even invited to such a personal occassion
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